Everyone would have heard about Affirmations and their positive impact on us somewhere or the other. Then you might ask, what’s so big a deal about these daily affirmations for kids. That’s what even I felt sometime back, and never really bothered about introducing my child to the concept of affirmations. Though we keep telling him that you are unique and special as a part of our Montessori Parenting philosophy, we never really gave ourselves time to affirmations.
But during the pandemic, when the entire world is shut down and my child has lost his privilege to spend time with peers. For an eight-year-old boy, socializing and meeting his friends is a part of growing up. When the entire fun part of his life has been taken away due to lockdown, my child went through a stressful phase, and his usual bubbly nature started to mellow down. He never had a role model to look up to so that he can think of conquering a tough task.
In the meantime, his gymnastics classes have started online and his coaches are asking him to do a headstand. I know, he will not be able to do it, so went to hold his legs so that, he can hold himself properly. He kicked me so hard that I was pushed almost a foot or two. His coaches were worried, whether he would hurt himself in this process. My kid also became totally upset and started telling himself that he can’t do a headstand. He is not a good gymnast anymore.
That’s when the hard truth has hit me, with his words echoing in my ears for a day or two. In order to pep him up, we worked out positive encouragement techniques and started boosting his self-confidence. Slowly, he started understanding the basic techniques of the headstand. Within two weeks, he was able to do a perfect headstand that his coaches themselves were a little surprised with his persistence in completing the difficult task. That’s when we realized the positive impact the affirmations have on the child’s development.
When is the right time to use these Affirmations with Kids?
So, now you all must be also wondering just like me, as to is there the right time to introduce this concept of daily affirmations to kids. When and how to introduce them to the affirmations. Affirmations are nothing but the positive talk that you are going to have with your kids. As a parent, we always use encouraging phrases for kids. So, we can introduce them whenever we use encouraging words with them.
Also, please note that every child is different and his need for affirmations would be different. So there is no straightforward copy-paste list of affirmations that one can use. But, you need to tailor them based on your needs and situations.
To introduce reading the daily affirmations, the kid should be able to speak a couple of sentences fluently and is able to repeat along with us. To start with, we need to recite these affirmations along with the kids, till the time they get the hang of them. Once they are able to recite them with ease, we can make any new changes to that list based on our needs.
How will these Affirmations work with Kids?
This is one of those difficult questions for which we can’t answer quantitatively, but can only give the qualitative proof. All these affirmations are nothing but the positive self talk which we teach our kids, so that the negative or the self-harming thoughts are removed from their brains.
Research shows that almost 70% of our thoughts are always negative and it needs a lot of consistent practise to remove or convert those negative thoughts into the positive thoughts. We can only use the positivity and mindfulness around us to remove the consistent negative chatter that keeps happening inside our brains.
Kids being tender and not still influenced by the negativity around them, it’s easier for us to mold their thinking into positive thinking. And as per the law of attraction, the more positive kids think, they can achieve what they want earlier in life. So, as parents, it’s our first responsibility to remove the negative talk from our kid’s life. So, using these daily affirmations with kids can do wonders for their life. One can see a remarkable change in them once we start using these affirmations on them.
Sample positive affirmations that I used for my son.
Here, are the list of few affirmations that I use regularly with my child.
I always believe in you
You are a brave child
There are no limits for you
You are willing to try out new things and challenges
You are a good fighter
You care for others deeply
I will be there for you always
I love hanging out with you
You are Unique
You make others smile
There are a lot more affirmations than those, I have listed above. I keep adding based on the situations at home or his school. of course, there are days when like a typical eight-year-old boy, my son wouldn’t listen to any of these or practice these affirmations. All he wants to do is to lie down and crib. That happens for everyone isn’t it. So we need to give him some space and time to dwell in that emotion of frustration. I just give him my shoulder to lean on and support him during that time. Then he would be bouncing back slowly, but surely as all the earlier affirmations would start working on him internally.
Books that I used:
“Affirmations for Kids by Julio Medina“ is one book that I stumbled across in Kindle Unlimited. This book is short and crisp and contains affirmations that we can use directly with our kids. It’s also formatted in such a way that we can take the printouts and hang them in our children’s rooms as well.
But my kid has liked “Mistakes are How I learn by Kiara Wilson“. Now that he has reached the age of self-reading, he wants to read books on his own and think about them, without my interference sometimes. So, we kept this book handy in our KU for him to read and reread as and when he feels like it.