This is the fourth episode of the ASK A FRIEND series. In this episode, we discuss the importance of the Love language and why children prefer different types of love languages. What are the different love languages, and how can we express them to our children? By listening to this episode, you can understand the preferred love language of your child.
Do you know that by using the correct love language with your child, you can fill their emotional tank pretty easily?Suhasini in ASK A Friend Series in Simplified Parenting with Emotionally Healthy Child podcast show
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Transcript of the Episode “Do you know the preferred Love Language of your child?”
As adults, we would have professed our love to our partners or crushes at least once in our lifetime. But what if I ask you, have you pledged your love to your parents or kids? What is your answer?
I can read your scowl when I ask whether you have professed your love to your parents or children. I am not asking you to tell them I love you by going down on your knee in a typical movie style.
For your elder parents, all they need is your time and a little chit-chat. So try to ask them daily how their day is and whether they had dinner. That will brighten their day. And if possible, please spend 5 minutes with them talking about something that would help them in the long run.
Whereas, for children, it’s a different ball game. Some children prefer the physical expression of love through hugs, cuddles, tickling, games, etc. However, most kids, especially tweens and teenagers, need physical affirmation of your love. Though they might scoff at these outward expressions of love, you can express this physical love by sitting next to them, rubbing their back, and massaging their legs or head.
Kids do remember the quality time you spend with them regularly. I mean the time you spend with your child without any distractions in the form of gadgets, newspapers, or something. It’s not about the length of time you spend with them but the deeper connection you establish with them during this time. During this connection, even the silence will communicate a lot. Like in my house, we will not miss having a cup of our morning drink together at any cost. All three of us would wait for each other to wake up before we had that drink. It’s our special time together as a family, the first 10 minutes of our day.
Some kids prefer to experience this love in the form of letters, in the form of lunch box notes, kit bag notes, surprise letters in their books, etc. These kids are highly expressive and prefer words to express their love through letters.
My grandfather has this habit of getting a short sweet every day while returning from work. He used to do this to my mom and her cousins and did the same with my generation. He expressed his love for us as kids by giving us sweet treats. So, in the long run, we remember that lovely surprise we get to see the following day early morning under our pillows and his love for us. So your child might also appreciate these small love gifts to him. Have you ever thought about it?
Some children need the affirmation of love language, like hearing your encouragement or praise. Sometimes, it’s about how unique that child is to you and how you enjoy having him around you.
Do you know your child’s love language and how you regularly fill their love tanks? Please do let me know in the comments. I am waiting to hear your views on this topic.
Till then, stay happy and enjoy your parenting days. If you like these episodes, don’t forget to share them with your friends, and also I will be waiting for your comments, as they are only my true motivators.