Human beings are social animals, that’s why we like to live and move in groups. But in recent times, with the advancement of technology and gadgets, we are becoming gadget geeks and moving away from friends and families. People are preferring the virtual world when compared to the real world and are happy living in silos. Also, this pandemic has converted the entire world into virtual living. That’s the reason why most of the relationships are failing in the current generation. That means, we parents have to wear one more hat and teach the kids, the value of relationships and how to maintain them as human beings can’t survive alone.
The concept of relationships and their importance is really a hard topic to teach the kids at this young age. But in the gadget-driven world, the amount of time our kids are spending with peers and friends is getting limited and sporadic. This will automatically lead to ME-FIRST or the self-centered attitude in kids.
To avoid this, we as parents, need to provide more opportunities for kids to interact with people around him. The more he interacts with the people, the more he understands the importance of having friends and family around him.
Characteristics of Good Relationships
Most of the psychologists advise the following important characteristics that define a good relationship
Open Communication: Communication forms the basic foundation of any relationship. If we stop sharing our feelings with other people, that’s when the relationship would start suffering. This concept could be taught to the kids even at a tender age when they keep fighting with their friends. Some kids shy away from talking after the fights with their friends. So, we need to identify that kind of kids and push them
Respect other’s views: Kids need to learn to respect all the people around them irrespective of age. Also, they need to give preference to other’s views and emotions as well. The most common fights we see among the kids are that they are not willing to play the game others are suggesting. That’s because the kids are still not able to understand that other’s opinions also matter. So teaching this at a young age will have long-term benefits for the kids.
Balancing the relationships: A good relationship is one in which both parties are equally responsible. They share and adjust with each other without much of a problem. But if only one person is doing all the adjustments, then it’s not a good relationship. So we need to teach the kids how to identify and maintain the balance in any relationship.
How to teach the Value of the Relationships to Kids?
Children observe and learn from the parents about everything. So, they learn how much importance we are giving to our relationships with people around us and how we are maintaining them. That’s the reason why the kids whose parents are in abusive or bad relationships are at a higher risk of learning more negative values about a relationship. So, the parents need to take a step back and assess the situation properly and act wisely so that we are not messing up our kid’s lives and their relationship goals as well.
The basic tips that are needed for any individual to understand the value of relationships
Acceptance: Every individual is different and unique. So accepting them as separate individuals with different tastes and needs is the first step of building any relationship. Once we accept the individuals as they are, then the teasing and bullying would stop. We shouldn’t demean anybody based on their body, tastes, needs, and other physical attributes. If we follow this principle as parents, the kids will also practice it. This principle is very much needed in today’s world. “No Body shaming to anyone”
Not taking for Granted: Any relationship would start losing its steam when both the parties start taking it for granted. We need to express our love, affection to the other person as and when the time needs or just as a habit. Once the kids see their parents expressing their love, affection, gratitude, and various other emotions to each other, the kids will start becoming more expressive in their relationships.
Letting it go: This is the utmost important part of any relationship. We shouldn’t tie the people we like and expect them to be with us every time. The good friends would come back to us at some point or the other. In the same way, we need to walk away from the bad or negative people. We need to teach both these aspects of letting go in a relationship with the kids. They can’t be hung on people.
Work as a team: Any relationship would successful, only if both the parties work in safeguarding it. It takes two hands to clap and in a similar way, it takes two people to maintain a relationship.
Sharing and Caring: Another stepping stone for a good relationship is the sharing and caring we bring into that relationship. We need to share our emotions and care for other person’s feelings, then only we can maintain the balance in the relationship.
Lastly, if you really want your child to build and appreciate the value of the relationships, then you need to limit his screen time. Only when he is not in front of the gadgets, he will be able to observe how the parents are maintaining the relationships with others and will be able to follow.