Every Child is Unique

Parents – Do you remember that Every Child is Unique

I am talking about the cliched adage “Every Child is Unique” today. Especially during this pandemic, I noticed that most parents use this adage only when it suits them but internally keep comparing their child to every other kid whose parents have posted something on social media.

As a parent, I can very well understand the feeling each parent carries internally in their hearts. They want everyone in the family and even in the friends circle to praise and talk about their kids. This pressure is self-built within parents due to the constant comparison with other kids in the neighborhood.

Every Child is Unique

How many times we would have asked our toddler, and even kids to a certain extent, to dance to a tune, sing a rhyme or tell a shloka or recite a story in front of the guests without even bothering to check whether the kid is in the mood for that impromptu stage show or not. We might say that we are not comparing our kids but are only asking them to exhibit their talents. But asking them to do impromptu shows like this continuously adds pressure and stress on the kids. They start comparing themselves with others who are not performing or even performing better than them. In the meanwhile, the other kids who are not performing will start losing their self-confidence, as no one is praising them. So that way, we are doing double harm to our kids unknowingly itself.

Every child has unique characteristics and traits. So as parents, we need to celebrate their uniqueness, enjoy and cherish it. But, we are comparing them with other kids and pushing them into the competitive world at an early age itself.

Why is Every Child Unique?

Developmental factors: Every child reaches the developmental milestones in their own time. The way we show patience while our child tries to learn to crawl and walk, we also need to show similar patience in other areas.

Different Temperaments: Every child is born with their own temperament and how they react to their surroundings and people. Some kids are very easy to raise, whereas a few others would be very challenging.

Different strengths and weaknesses: Research shows that we all have different abilities and different types of Intelligence. Each individual uses them differently, and they do develop differently for everyone. So we can’t really compare one person to the other.

Different Learning Styles: Based on how the different bits of intelligence have formed in the brains of the kids, they learn in different ways.

Tips to Celebrate the Child’s Uniqueness:

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Instill confidence in the Kids that they are Unique and different

First of all, we as parents should tell our kids that they are really different from their peers and special to us. You really admire his unique qualities with all the mistakes and pitfalls too. Once the child gets this confidence, he can work on his special talents and hone them.

Read Inspiring Books together:

While reading these books together with the children, they will be able to understand how these successful and inspiring people have used their shortcomings in a better way to achieve what they desired.

Never speak negatively about him in front of him.

This is the toughest part of parenting, as in most cases, when we are pushed to the corner by kids, we try using negative talk to scare them. But we need to control our impulses and stop comparing the kids in a negative way.

Provide opportunities to explore their interests and talents:

Always try to provide various experiences and opportunities to kids so that they can explore their hidden talents. Don’t push them into the extra classes after school without really understanding their preferences. The interests and talents vary from child to child. They form the basis for their future life as well. So that’s the reason why we shouldn’t push our interests onto the kid.

Every Child is Unique

Celebrate your Child:

Always celebrate your child’s successes and failures without really admonishing them. Also, give them tools and techniques to hone their skills.

So, as a parent, it’s our job just to show the right pathway for the child so that he can use his talents and interests to succeed in future life.

Suhasini, IP, is the Author of the book “Practical Tips for Kids Mental Health.” As a certified kids and parents life coach, she helps/guides you toward a happy family life for your kids. She firmly believes that “Emotionally Happy Kids of today are the Mentally Strong and Happy Citizens of tomorrow.” Let’s make the world a happy and beautiful place for our kids to thrive.


  1. I agree, Suhasini..each child is unique. There cannot be any similarity . You can never slot them into one group or give parental advise. Every kid has their own set of quirks and habits. Moms can just steer them towards the right direction.

  2. Absolutely! Strengths and weaknesses differ. Yet the come out flying colors. With help of parents.

  3. Totally agree, every child is unique and we as parent should never even compare them. Good to read that they are different based on temperaments, strengths, weaknesses, as well as learning styles. We need to understand their individual qualities and loved all your tips to celebrate their uniqueness.

  4. I agree dear it is very important to celebrate uniqueness of our child. each child has some unique talent and as a parent we should try to encourage that rather than making usual comparison.

  5. Totally with you on this, I often say this too that every child is unique buddy

    1. Thats so wonderful to hear Roma. Thank you

  6. That’s absolutely true!! Even though we agree to the fact that every child is unique, we start comparing our kids to others’ at some level. Let’s take a woe to celebrate their uniqueness, so that they can flourish independently.

    1. Thank you Navita. Thats really a wonderful Vow, I think every parent should take

  7. Comparing our kids with others can hamper their uniqueness and is a classic mistake that many parents make. Let them find their wings and their own space in the sky.

    1. Yes Varsha. Very rightly said. When we can’t compare apples to oranges, in the same way, to preserve the uniqueness of each child, we shouldn’t compare them

  8. I agree with you Suhasini.. It is easy said than done. As a parent just saying my child is unique and not accepting the fact does more harm to kids. Talking negative about them in front of them demotivates them to the core. So we need to act like a responsible parent and follow your pointers.

  9. Absolutely agree with you. Similar to the story i discussed today. A great learning for all the parents from your post
    Deepika Sharma

  10. Very true, every child is unique and this need to be understood, I really loved the post!

  11. So true. The best thing would be to identify their strengths and help them hone it accordingly.

  12. Thank you dear, yes we never should talk negative in front of them.

  13. Thank you Deepika. Yes, I know its about the Ugly Duckling

  14. Totally agree, every child is unique and we as parent should never even compare them . We need to identify their strength and encourage them

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