Children by nature are a curious lot. During their growing up days from infancy to toddlerhood, they are always on the lookout for information and once they start talking, they become question banks of sorts. They come to you one single question, which keeps getting extended into a question-answer session, irrespective of whether you are in the middle of something urgent or in the washroom. Most of the parents would have handled these little question banks at one time or the other isn’t it? Then you must be wondering why there is a need for parents to ask questions to kids? Or you might be like me, who wants to understand what’s going on in our child’s mind and hence finding out different questions to ask the kids. Whatever may be the case, this blog discusses the importance of questions and kids.
Why we should ask questions to kids?
Before, I give my arguments as to why we should ask questions to kids, let me ask you two questions.
Have you ever donned the role of an investigator in your kids life?
Did you ever wonder what’s going on in the little brain (or even the big brain for teenage kids) of your kids?
If you answered YES to any of the above questions, then I don’t have to talk about the importance of asking questions to kids. But for others, here is my argument, which I strongly believe:
- Asking questions right from their early age develops decission making capabilities in kids
2. It will help the parents to forage a strong bond with the kids
3. It will also help the parents to understand their kids emotions and thoughts better
4. It will help the kids to develop the most important traits like empathy, kindness, mindfulness etc
5. It will also help to develop the kid’s curiosity and creativity, especially with open ended questions.
Different types of questions to ask the Kids:
Now you understand the importance of asking questions to kids, here are few different types of questions to ask the Kids.
- Funny questions:
To start with, here are few sample funny questions that can act as conversation starters and make even the reserved or shy kid open up.
# What is the funniest sound you heard till date?
# Do you want to become ant or a big lion for a day?
# If you find a genie, who can give you only one wish, what would you really wish for?
# If you want to be at some other place right now, where that place would be?
2. Social or Get-to-Know Questions:
# What is your favorite color?
# What is your favorite book?
# Who is your best friend?
# Which teacher do you love most in the school?
# What is your favorite food?
3. Would you rather type of questions?
We can start asking these questions from a very tender age itself, as it will make the kid choose and decide. With a little bit of creativity and quick thinking, we can use these questions so that kids can do what we want them to do, without undergoing any power struggle and making the kids feel that it’s their choice.
# Would you rather swing or slide?
# Would you like to take bath now or later?
# Would you rather sit inside the house without playing or enjoy the weather outside?
# Would you rather read a book or go for a walk?
4. Questions about School:
Once the kids start going into the school, then we need to understand how was their day in the school and few kids wouldn’t want to discuss anything about the school immediately. So here are a few sample questions to ask them, so that the kids can get talking.
# Who made you smile today in the school?
# What made you happy in the school today?
# Which story or funny incident the teacher narrated to you today?
# With whom you shared your snacks today?
5. Open-ended questions:
Open-ended questions will make the kid think and develop his logical thinking capabilities. These questions would definitely lead to more questions as there is nothing right or wrong, but we get to learn about our kids and they get to think about a lot of things.
# Why did you choose to read this book?
# What makes you laugh and feel happy?
# Are there other ways to solve this problem?
# What can we do differently next time?
The same open-ended questions can be used to teach the value of family and inculcate other important emotional characteristics in the kids like:
6. Value of Family relationships:
# What is your favorite family tradition?
# What do you like the most about our family?
# What we can do as a family?
# What do you want to change in our family rules or traditions?
# Did you get teased at any time in the school?
# Did you stand up and support the kids who got teased in the school?
# Are you been kind to some one today?
# What do you think if some one has helped you?
# What do you think you are good at?
# What do you have to do to improve your skills in that area?
# How can you help others or change the world today?
# Are you grateful for something today?
# What are the things that you can give to others so that you can see the joy in them?
# What are the things that are not necessary for you, but still you have them?
# What are things that you have, which others don’t have at this moment?
10. Mental Strength:
# What are the things that you are really uncomfortable with?
# How do you want to face your fears?
# What do you do when someone criticizes you?
Though this post lists down so many different types of questions and samples, believe me not all the kids would be enthused to answer the questions in the starting. It really takes consistent time and effort from the parent’s side to make the kid understand that the parents are really willing to spend time with them without any deviations. Also, they need to understand that we are trying to spend our quality time with them and not interrogating them. Only then they would start opening up.
An easy tip to get the kids to start talking is while going on long drives. The kids know that we are concentrating on driving and hence wouldn’t be reacting too much even if they say something outright to us. That’s when most of the kids do the talking.