Positive Parenting Tips: Reasons for Your Kid’s Rude Behavior

This is the second episode of the ASK A FRIEND series. In this episode, we discuss reasons for your kid’s rude behavior. These days, kids’ rude behavior is a common complaint from most parents. It’s not the kids who must be treated or fixed for their rude behavior. We need first to understand the root cause for this behavior across the age groups of kids.

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Transcript of the Episode Reasons for Kid’s Rude Behavior

Let’s imagine this scene: One day, you go to work one day, and your boss calls you and starts scolding you in a high-pitched voice for a mistake in the work you submitted the previous day. He called you a useless fellow and said you would never change; I don’t have any hopes for you. 

Now, let’s move to the second scenario: You cooked a lavish dinner with different dishes and wanted a nice cozy dinner with your partner. You have poured all your love into cooking those dishes. However, when your partner came and sat down to have dinner, he or she didn’t like the taste and started scolding immediately, saying that you don’t even know how to cook. What’s the use of spending so much time in the kitchen? He even went to the extent of throwing that dinner plate down.

Now, let’s talk about your feelings in both situations. First, do you want to work with that boss once again? Do you want to see that boss’s face again? Even though there is a mistake, would you be in the mood to accept it after that boss’s rude behavior?

Same thing with the second scenario. Would you like to continue living with that partner or consider moving out?

You must wonder why I discuss these situations in this parenting podcast show. I am coming there only, my dear friends. 

Most of you keep complaining about the rude behavior of your children, tweens, and teenagers. And sometimes, you even seek the help of counselors like me. But let’s see how you spend your time with your children.

You are sitting along with your child while he is doing his homework. In that process, your child makes a small mistake. I agree that it’s a repeated mistake only.  You already explained him multiple times, but still, he cannot grasp it. What would you do? You would start throwing adult tantrums. And start saying, how many times should I tell you, are you a dull-headed boy, don’t you remember anything…blab la…

In school another day, one teacher throws the homework books on the student’s face because of a few mistakes in his completed assignment.

Now, what will happen to those children? Some kids who can start taking things lightly will get adjusted to all these adult tantrums during childhood. But when they enter into teenage, they will become rudeness personified as they think that’s the way to live, as they have seen this rudeness around them.

Other kids, who are sensitive and sensible, will wilt away and fall through the cracks by losing their self-confidence and esteem.

I am not saying we need to be polite even to our kids. We are also human beings, and losing our cool sometimes is okay. But what’s most important here is how we try to bond back with our children and admit our mistakes to them.

It’s always better to express our anger gently yet strongly so the children will know how to show their displeasure or unhappiness as they learn more through observation.

Don’t you think the kids are also individuals like us and deserve equal respect? So when we don’t behave this rudely to other adults, why do we take the liberty to behave rudely with our kids?

What do you think, my friends?  Isn’t it time for us to wake up and give the kids the space and respect they deserve so that they can become peaceful teenagers and adults in the future? So do let me know your thoughts.