5 Parenting Lessons from Bollywood Songs
The day I got introduced to Binaca Geet Mala by one of our family friends and my mentor in the late eighties, I became a fan of Ameen Sayani, Radio Ceylon and Bollywood songs. Slowly, as I started understanding the lyrics, I became an avid fan of the Bollywood lyricists, music composers and also the singers of the old Bollywood songs. Even till date, Hindi songs keep playing mostly on loop on my mobile or radio at home.
When Pragun and Alapana decided to run the #BollyExpress based on the old Hindi Songs, I thought of penning down the tips I share with my kid from these songs. My kid has also turned an avid fan of old Bollywood songs and he realizes that Kishore Kumar is one of my favorites. So I feel that I had succeeded in introducing him to the melodious era of music.
Gaadi Bula Rahi Hai:
Gaadi Bula Rahi Hai is one of the first songs my Kid learned. He is an ardent fan of Indian Railways and always wants to travel by train. His aim at one point in time was to become an Engine driver when he grows up. But being a kid, he used to always procrastinate things. So I started singing this song to make him understand that its time to get ready and keep moving…he loves the Engine whistle in this song and wants to drive a steam Engine one day.
Don’t you all agree that this song lyrics have a deeper meaning that we need to teach our kids that the “Change is Constant in Life“?
Har Gadhi Badal Rahi hai Roop Zindagi ki:
My kid became a cricket fan after watching the World Cup 2019 and started getting anxious about whether he can play international cricket at some point in life or not. So for a few days, we used the song “Que Sara Que Sara” to tell him not to worry about the future. But we found out that he is going more crazier about Cricket and stopped living in the present as he started dreaming only about playing international cricket. Then we hit upon this song, which emphasized the importance of living in the moment. We played this movie for him on Netflix and explained the importance of living in the moment and not getting too much stuck in the future. This song is really a big help for us.
Another important lesson we learned as parents, is that we should give more experiences to our kids and make them take their time out to smell the roses en route and make lots and lots of memories before they go to achieve their dreams. Dreams are only destinations and not the whole journey.
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Zindagi ki Safar mein guzar jati hai jo makam
Last year my kid had to undergo a lot of grief as he has lost his grandfather, who is his only best friend in life. Just being a 6-year-old kid it was really hard on him to digest this fact. Whenever the doorbell rings or the phone rings, he used to come running saying that Tata (dada in Telugu) returned back from god. It took us a lot of time and effort to make him understand that his granddad can not return back in the exact form once again. It’s still painful for all of us to recount those dark days. But being an avid Kishore Kumar fan, this song used to play at the back of my mind and I used to take my support from the lyrics of this song to give back the required strength to my kid. LionKing movie has given my kid a kind of solace and now he tries to find his grand dad’s image in clouds. We still have a long way to go in this healing journey, but time would heal it “Aane Wala Pal Jaane Wala Hai” isn’t it?
Yeh Kahan aa Gaye Hum:
As a parent, it’s upon us to introduce our kids to various experiences rather than giving the materialistic goods. Experiences teach them a lot. Once we took our kid on top of a lighthouse to watch the early morning sunrise. The joy and sheer bliss on my kid’s face, while he was sitting on top of the lighthouse, was just priceless and he kept on saying that where did we come, how beautiful this place is, etc.
So as a parent, we learned another lesson and we plan all our trips in such a way that we can get to mingle more closely with nature without destroying its pristine beauty.
Aye Zindagi Gale Laga le:
Isn’t it the most important lesson, we should teach our kids? This life is given to us as a gift from God and we need to live it to the fullest by living each and every moment. At the same time, we need to also instill compassion towards other forms of life on the earth in our kid, along with social responsibility, isn’t it? Then only as a parent, we can say that we had fulfilled our role.
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Aane wale Saal ko Salam, Jaanewale Saal ko Salam.
Lastly, since yesterday evening my kid was in a somber mood and when asked he told me that he is worried about 2019. Where 2019 would go and has it died like his granddad? Then why no one is crying for its death, but rather than partying and welcoming 2020. Like a typical 7-year-old kid, his questions are never-ending about 2019. I think I need to make another story and tell him how happy 2019 is for leaving then, maybe my kid would embrace 2020 with more warmth.
As a parent, it’s our foremost responsibility to answer all the questions our kids have rather than scoffing them off. What say, friends?
Author’s Note: I really take this opportunity to thank Pragun and Alapana for giving me a platform to share my Parenting lessons and experiences based on the Songs from Bollywood.